I am committed to conversations for accountability paying off in increased results. For example, I believe that companies that care about the triple bottom line — profits, people, and the planet — are accountable and add vitality to the world.
But I am not attached to what that looks like. In other words your version of the triple bottom line is up to you.
That I am committed to accountability paying off and increasing vitality gives me freedom to listen carefully for what is important to you. It is the access to something. It feeds my interest in you. I don’t have to be right about how you get to the triple bottom line. My ego is not in the conversation.
So what is attachment? Being attached may lead to doing things YOUR way, which might not be the most effective way, or the way with the highest ROI, or the way that works for the most number of people. Donald Trump’s leadership’s style is a good example of attachment. You will do it MY way or hit the highway. Emotions usually ride high with attachment . Ego is very present.
Being committed or being attached are places you come from when moving a project forward or moving toward a goal. Profit is a goal. People and the planet are not goals, they are stakeholders in how you reach that goal. As a leader, one of the most difficult dynamics to manage are people’s unmet expectations about how other people should behave on the way to a common goal.
If you have been leading organizations for a while you are probably smiling that little recognition smile. This means you have to bring people together sometimes to remind them of the value of civility, because each is attached to his or her own opinion of how something should be done.
When attachment is present, listening stops. Progress is impeded when this happens. What there is to do is take the conversation back to the commitment that is shared, and see what opens up.
Where are you attached? Where are you committed? Can you feel the difference? I would enjoy hearing your stories.




